well, let's move on to the guys .. :)

ok this post will be mainly on guys so gals might have a better understanding..

well, let start with the types of guys i know. there are the persistent, sly, confident, shy, die die must try kind and also the don't dare to approach kind.

i think i belong to both the shy and die die must try de. for one i am shy when making new friends, but when i know that there is this one gal that i like, i will approach her and ask her whether will she be willing to accept me no matter what. somehow when i know that my feelings are positive towards this person, i will let her know my feelings even knowing that i might get rejected in the end. people around me ask me why, i tell them if you never ask you will never know. why bother about what others tell you ?? even if they are close with the one that you love, why give up when they tell you too .. don't you even for one second stop and think that they might like the person that you like as well, and they are asking you to give up so that they have one competitor left ? this are the sly kind, and i have met one before, they told this friend of mine that he does not like this gal and will never go for her, but in the end, he got together with that gal. my friend was so heart broken. and somehow i realise that gals have a tentency to go for this kind of guys. at times i just wanna tell them to open up their eyes and see instead going with their feelings. this are the guys that will change their attitude towards you after a long period of time being together with you. so please be careful.

other than that there are this group that are shy and don't dare to even try kind. well, i can say that they eventually do after a long long period of time. but all i want to say is that they might have miss the window of opportunity. there is this friend of mine, that always drag and drag. i dunno why they always do what they did, but i wanted to tell them so much that if there is this person that are willing to go out with you often and always come looking for you when she is troubled, and if at the same time you have the right feelings for her, pls try. don't ever think that trying means that you might lose a friend. yes there is a chance that you might lose one, but think of it this way, there is a chance that you can get a companion to share your life with. which is more important ??

well, i am sleepy.. hope to post soon ..

re: interesting thoughts from some of my friends .. :)

ok well, from all that i can gather.. it's not the outer that matters the most. i did not say that it does not matter, to a certain extent it does, but not totally. what i am trying to say is that gals does not judge guys base on only looks. the inner matters a lot too. i should say that the inner matters the most. look at it this way, if there are two guys where one have a better looks and is more wealthy than the other going after the same gal, who do you think the gal will choose ?? seriously, gals who are not that mature might go for the one with looks and wealth. on the other hand, if that gal is mature enough, she might choose over the guy with a better inner character.

just based on my own experience, please dun quote me, i know quite a number of gals that choose based on inner rather than physically attributes. like for me, people who know me will know that i dun have the looks and the wealth, but the gals that choose to be with me choose me for my inner character. on the other hand, something to note, gals with different character choose guys with different kinds of character. there are no good or bad character, you just have to choose the right person who appreciate your inner character.

just be yourself if you want to find the correct, if you always wanted to put on a mask when dealing with people, you will never be able to find the gal that best suit you.

that's all folks. if you have problems or queries on relationship related matters you can drop me a sms .. just hope to know more friends and also to share experiences. stay tuned .. !!

interesting thoughts..

well, this posts are mainly for guys. do you know how girls choose their partner ??

well, hope that the first line caught your attention. let start all over again, do you what girls like about the other partner. i may not be correct, or always true but i can say that it does not have anything with your status or looks. somehow it just the feeling that you give the other person. not surprising right, some are even thinking that i am talking crap, but think carefully when i say feeling what i mean ?? hmmm , food for thoughts ??

that all for today.. after all i posted 2 new posts, well we shall look at this at another point of view next time.. till than .. :)

back to my first post :)

well, honestly even for me i have no explanation for all the actions that people choose to do when they are heart broken, but there is a fix pattern, they just want to forget about some certain things and hope that they can move on in life. however i realize these sort of actions are not the correct ways of doing things. some may say that there is nothing wrong with their own actions, but think of it this way, you are causing harm to the people around you that cared. dun have to look too far to find the people that cared for you, as long as you are a son to a mother, your mom will cared for you irregardless of what happened to you. when you drink and got wasted away, when you got home, the one that open the door for you and help you change out of your smelly clothes is your parents. do you realize what you are missing when you are hurting yourself in a way or another. there was once when my mom help to drag me into the house when i am drunk. i can still remember the look on her face till today. i am so sad that unknowingly i hurt the other person that means the most to me and that is my mom. so for people that intend to get wasted in the future, please think about it before you decide on whether you want to get wasted.

hmmm .. actions lead to consequences. why not use the time you have to do something more useful?? caring for the less fortunate, or help out in whatever you can at home. guys, how long have it been since you last clean your own cabinet?? you own bed or your own drawer?? why not do all this to help clear your mom loads rather than getting yourself wasted and waste another day when you have a hang over the next day ? sometimes i just dun get it .. -_-"

how to explain your actions ..

well, sorry for the long days of no new blogs, been busy with work :(

anyway, a simple test will show that most people have the same kind of reaction when it comes to this kind of issue. simply put, how do most people overcome this issue is to avoid the problems on hand. honestly even i also made the same mistakes in the past. i will choose to do more duty and even not going home and avoiding the places that we have been to before. why?? cause i just dun want to be reminded of the memories of me and her.

have anyone ever thought instead of thinking that breaking up is a problem or an issue, why not think there it is an end to a problem. when you encounter problems in your relationship and it leads to a break up, i think it put an end to the problem and not a problems itself. i agree that it might be hurtful, it might be painful, but think of it in a another way, it end the suffering of the other party, you might have been hurting her/him when you are in this relationship with him/her. i cannot say anything from a girl's point of view cause i am after all a guy, but i can say that from a neutral party point of view, sometime when i see my friends having problems in their relationship, i would advice them to let go. the highest level of love is not to hold the person you love in your arms, it is to know when to let go when the time have come. till date i am still looking for the one that can always support me in whatever i do to be there when i needed her, but honestly there is no such a person there, and you have to learn that this is a fact. most couple are mostly working adults, it is impossible for the other party to be always waiting for you, even if there is, how long will the other party be willing to wait and wait ??

hmm, guess that is all for today's food for though. good night .. :)

A little Introduction

well, this is my first post so let me start off by telling you something about me. i have been living in Singapore since the day i have been born, i have been living in the same place since some 20 years ago. i had try all kind of job ever since the age of 14, from McDonald's to admin and even delivery boy. maybe it's the kind of job that i have, maybe it due to the people that i have met since i am young, it related to how i try to understand different people around me, and esp. the people that i love. although i does not really like the job that i am in now, i have to admit that it taught me a lot of stuff, esp. relationship between people.

now on to the topic that i wanted to talk about, how to understand the people around you? esp. the people that you love. to be honest, i have been in and out of relationships. i have people leaving me for a another guy, i have people telling me that i have a hot temper, i have people telling me that "i still love you and i think you are a nice guy, but i don't think we should be together". i always ask myself why? what went wrong? what did i do to deserve this? i guess guys and girls that fall out of love always ask themselves this few question. isn't it strange that all people are thinking of the same thing when they fall out of love. and usually they do the same things that all of us will do, to drink to get wasted to cramp all the space in their brain with other stuffs. why? they do not want to be reminded of the past and the relationship that they use to have. do you think that there is a rational behavior behind this actions ?

well, let end here for now. i will be posting more soon. :)